SHANE​ WARREN

There’s a name for this weird little void we tumble into every year, that space between Christmas and New Year’s Eve when time stops making sense, calories stop counting, and the line between “afternoon nap” and “existential crisis” gets deliciously blurry. It’s called Gooch Week.

As we roll into the end-of-year season - family dinners, office parties, group catch-ups, and those “let’s do this every year!” barbecues - there’s always that one person.

There’s a story that actress Katharine Hepburn once told, and if you’ve read it before, it’s worth reading again. Not because it’s heartwarming (though it is), and not because it makes us all want to be better humans (though it definitely does), but because it reminds us of something the modern world forgets far too often...

There are moments in men’s sexual health where confusion speaks louder than pain. One of them is this: “I climaxed… but nothing came out.”

Painful ejaculation isn’t talked about much, particularly in gay men’s spaces where sex is often framed as performance, stamina, confidence, and intensity. But when orgasm is followed by burning, aching, sharp discomfort, or deep pelvic pain, it can trigger anxiety very quickly.

Sexual Aversion Disorder (often now understood under broader frameworks of sexual interest/arousal difficulties and trauma-informed models) describes a persistent fear, disgust, or anxiety response toward sexual contact. It is not simply a quiet libido. It is a protective response. And protection is always meaningful.

Penis size is a topic that can cause a great deal of anxiety and insecurity in men. Many men feel envious of those who have a larger penis size and may struggle with confidence and self-esteem as a result. Holistic psychotherapy and hypnosis can offer a solution to help individuals overcome penis size envy and develop confidence and self-esteem.

Erection Boost is a term used to describe the process of improving one's ability to achieve and maintain an erection during sexual activity.

Sexual self-expression refers to the ability to communicate one's sexual desires, needs, and boundaries in a healthy and respectful way.

So let’s approach this not as a performance problem but as a nervous system conversation. Because delaying orgasm is not about clenching harder or distracting yourself with mental arithmetic. It is about learning how your body moves toward climax and how to gently guide that momentum.